I always say that men have been fed a bill of goods. Do you remember how your sister or female cousins might have gotten sympathy when they stumbled or got hurt but you were told to “toughen up” and sent on your way? Little boys were conditioned by thankfully now-disappearing gender bias where parents and caregivers felt they were helping little boys to be strong. Sounds good in theory. There is only one problem with this. Little boys and men are human beings, too. This means they have a whole wide range of feelings, and not just the only acceptable one – anger- that they’ve been taught is acceptable to express.  Men feel disappointment, loss, frustration, sadness, fear, anxiety, confusion, overwhelm, irritability (which is often a sign of depression in men), despair, hopelessness….

When we taught little boys to just keep going and to toughen up, we didn’t realize that we were teaching them to stuff their feelings, to repress, and to carry an unfair burden of having emotional needs but no ability or freedom to express those feelings.  This has led to men being out of touch with their emotions and oftentimes even unable to identify what it is that they are feeling. Having emotions bottled up results in not only emotional disconnect, nervous system instability, and unfulfilling relationships, but also leads to physiological stress on your body that surfaces in somatic form. This can take the form of TMS,TMJ, autoimmune disorders, back pain, stomach/gut issues tension headaches, etc. Learn how to release emotions, decrease stress, and add more passion and joy to your life.

Suicide rates have gone through the roof since covid and in particular with middle aged males. If you find yourself irritable, overwhelmed or anxious, I am here to give you the tools you need and were most likely never given to master your emotions. Whether it’s anger that is driving a wedge between you and your spouse, jealousy or control issues in a dating relationship, financial fears, work struggles, or you just need to talk to someone, realize that you don’t have to go it alone. I’m here to support you in your journey in overcoming past hurts, traumas, and patterns that are keeping you stuck.

Call us at 469-269-0101 or email me at [email protected]

One on one or group therapy?

Call our office to find out more info and to join our Online Men’s Group Therapy starting in April.  Sessions will be from !2:00-1:30PM on Wednesdays by zoom.

Our Online Men’s Recovery group will focus on Love, Sex, and Building More Intimate Relationships.

Eight sessions will be:held on the dates below.  The price is $50 per session and are purchased as a package for the entire eight week time period upfront. Come as little or as much as you can.  I am adding one extra session at no cost which brings your cost to $350.00 for eight sessions of group therapy which are 90 minutes each. That’s like 12 hours of therapy for $350.00!!

Call our office at 469-269-0101 to register!

Online Men’s Group Therapy Dates

Wednesday, April 5

Wednesday, April 12

Wednesday, April 19

Wednesday, April 26

Wednesday, May 3

Wednesday, May 10

Wednesday May 17

Wednesday, May 24

Does your marriage lack intimacy?  

Are you struggling with performance anxiety? 

Is your secret obsession with porn consuming you?

Have you ever seen an ad that made you feel an impulsive need to buy? Maybe the smiling brunette leaning on the shiny new sports car made you wonder what you would look like driving a new convertible.

Although it is no secret that marketers bombard us with advertising and images that remind us why we need to buy their product – our car could be sleeker, our technology could have more features – but one very important factor cannot be ignored.  Sex sells. This is nowhere more evident than the explosion of the internet porn industry.  The proliferation of images, platforms, modalities and avenues for seeking and/or receiving sexual stimulation has skyrocketed in recent years. As one would suspect, the widespread availability and accessibility of porn  has fueled its prolific usage, and more notably, a seemingly insatiable public consumption which is also privately affecting relationships..

No longer is porn relegated to glossy covered magazines hidden in the back of dusty bookstores, but sits instead in the hands of every middle-school child with a smartphone. In 2010, it was reported that the average age that a boy first views porn is 11 years of age!  Whether it manifests as love addiction, sex addiction or porn addiction, the stranglehold of sexually compulsive behaviors does not discriminate on age, gender, religion or socioeconomic status. Instead, it is born as a coping strategy when faced with boredom, sadness, shame, or other emotions and then blossoms through secretive self-soothing and repetition. If we have a look at the statistics, it becomes very clear that there is a problem.

Is your lust for porn killing your desire for your real life partner?

Ashley Evans, LPC

Relationships

Sex/Love/Porn Addiction

Compulsive behaviors

Infidelity

Consensual Non-Monogamy

Trauma Bonds

Trauma Healing