Are you familiar with the song by Lauv “I Like Me Better”
…when I’m with you?
Well, this stands true the moment when Ashley Evans started to give me her perspective on how I was handling my love life situations. I’m that girl that everyone says is so pretty, strong, talented, kind, hard working, and could have anyone she wanted. What’s crazy is, I married my true love in 2008 who ended up being a porn addict and we divorced 8 months later. Sad right? Then two years later, I marry again thinking this older, strong man and I are going to have beautiful children and a profitable cancer business. Well, let’s just say that narcissist married me for my family’s money, and it took 5 years to get him to finally step away from the business and divorce me. Just when you think I’ve learned my lesson with these “type” of men, I quickly go and date a married man who promises me he’s separated and getting a divorce. I’m embarrassed to say I stayed hoping and praying that would be true for 3 years. Side note…he’s still married. Ashley came into my life at the time I knew that relationship was over but desperately needed help moving on or I would have been sucked right back in. She was able to guide me in a way no other therapist has. She didn’t care about my past, upbringing or situations. She only focused on making me feel like the awesome girl everyone was seeing on the outside. She would text, call, offer books, instagram quotes, happy hour and even opened up about her journey in life. She was given to me by God, I have no doubt. I am 11 weeks out from my last break up and I’ve never felt more powerful and peaceful as a woman. If you’re lucky enough to be ready to listen to her advice, you’ll be better than you ever thought you could be. Those last 12 years were rough for me and my family. As the song goes, “I like me better when I’m with you”!
Thank you Ashley Evans for helping me love myself again and for bringing that love back into my family and friends.
V.A.